I was thinking about how women often feel like we must be a superwoman. We will soldier on, despite physical pain or illness. “Who else is going to do it?” “They can’t function without me,” and similar declarations march through our thoughts. We do ourselves, and others, a great disservice when we play superwoman.
We deny ourselves the chance to relax, to repair, refresh and replenish our energy. We do not pamper ourselves or treat ourselves to the same tender care we offer to others. We abuse our bodies and spirits in this way. It’s no wonder our illnesses linger, our energy takes so long to return, and our bodies are ravaged from our own lack of respect for ourselves.
When we play superwoman, we also deny others the chance to do for us what we’ve done for them. If the laundry doesn’t get folded just so, or dinner is canned soup and grilled cheese, so what? It’s so difficult for many of us to get out of the driver’s seat and let someone else take control – even for a day.
I am guilty as charged. One of life’s greatest challenges for me is to accept help as graciously as it is given. I am a giver by nature and that is my default setting. Now living with another sincere giver in my life, I’m learning to let go of complete control.
I have learned that my children are eager to help me in many small ways, because they are now at an age when a kindness, like making their lunch, or buying a favorite cookie, does not go unnoticed.
I sat still today and rested. I did not clean or straighten or even take out the garbage. I let others do things for me. My loved ones are thrilled at the chance to give back a little something to me. It’s a win-win situation.